Thursday, June 4, 2015

Discussing the Duggers

I am very troubled by the information coming out on the Duggers. The information I have gathered is that a son inappropriately touched ( touched breasts ) of a female sibling(s) while she, or they slept ,and apparently nothing was done. There are reports that say that the son is viewed as a "victim" by the girls and the family. I have this information but I can not say any of it is true. What I find troubling is that there is a right and wrong way to handle these matters. First, any inappropriate touching of a sexual nature between kids is not to be ignored. Yes, young children may be curious between each other but the line is crossed if either child feels uncomfortable or if there is an age difference. Mr. Dugger being 15 years old and touching the breasts of a 5 year old is sexual molestation. Children that demonstrate sexual acting out must be evaluated to make sure that they themselves have not been abused or are in a setting where they are witnessing sexuality inappropriate for their age, including exposure to pornography. Sex between siblings, touching of sexual organs is not appropriate. This has to be addressed. If there are any doubts, see a professional. A pediatrician, a therapist, someone who works with children. Not all issues require the immediate phoning of the police. If a child is in immediate danger yes, you call 911. If you are not sure the child is being harmed , in Florida you call 1-800-96-ABUSE. Department of Children and Families will investigate. One has to get help for the child. I find this Dugger family very disturbing. They are the classic dysfunctional family. Too busy judging others but they have major dysfunction in the core of their family. My concern also is how conservative media such as FOX interview the family. It scares me that incest and sexual abuse are minimized and thereby condoned as appropriate or "normal" in some way. My heart also goes out to all the women and men who are survivors of incest and abuse. Many of these men and women have had years of treatment and may continue to be in treatment in order to deal with the abuse. Children need to be protected. We are the eyes, ears and hands to help children grow up to be healthy adults.