Memorial Day marks the unofficial start of summer. This weekend, families will be driving all across this great country going on weekend getaways, family reunions, the beach and let's not forget the mall, for those great "Memorial Day sales. " As we look forward to summer sun, fun and bargains let's take a little time to "remember" what we are celebrating. It is called Memorial Day because we are remembering and honoring all the men and women who have sacrificed so that we can live in a great country.
Enjoy.........................
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Friends
How important are friends? Very!
While important to clarify, friends are very important. Good, supportive friends. Friends are not what dysfunctional folks refer to when they go out without their spouse, to cheat or escape family responsibilities.
Friends are folks that share similiar interests, support you emotionally, like you and support your lifestyle which would include your spouse or significant other.
You may know these people from a community group, Church, Synagogue, or work. Having folks you can share, talk, and laugh with enhances the quality of your life and even your intimate relationships. Regular outings with your friends is totally acceptable even for married folks. The problem is the group that use this opportunity to cheat and act in inappropriate ways. These folks give the concept a bad image and ruin it for many. There needs to be trust in a relationship and those out with their friends should be behaving appropriately not abusing the trust. Going out with friends is done in addition to going out with your spouse or significant other and your responsibilities to your family is priority.
These experiences, enhance our lives and make us more interesting, happy people.
While important to clarify, friends are very important. Good, supportive friends. Friends are not what dysfunctional folks refer to when they go out without their spouse, to cheat or escape family responsibilities.
Friends are folks that share similiar interests, support you emotionally, like you and support your lifestyle which would include your spouse or significant other.
You may know these people from a community group, Church, Synagogue, or work. Having folks you can share, talk, and laugh with enhances the quality of your life and even your intimate relationships. Regular outings with your friends is totally acceptable even for married folks. The problem is the group that use this opportunity to cheat and act in inappropriate ways. These folks give the concept a bad image and ruin it for many. There needs to be trust in a relationship and those out with their friends should be behaving appropriately not abusing the trust. Going out with friends is done in addition to going out with your spouse or significant other and your responsibilities to your family is priority.
These experiences, enhance our lives and make us more interesting, happy people.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Mother's Day
5-10-09
It's an interesting thing to see people's reaction to this day. I find my spinning instructor's comment to be inspirational. He wished everyone in class a "Happy Mother's Day" He said that even women that do not have children have "mothered" some children. For the most part, that is very true. Woman as teachers, therapists, child care workers, and in various roles have "mothered" and nurtured children. If only we can focus on the positives , such as nurturing and mothering today and not focus on loss. I have met individuals who "detest" the day and will say so weeks before the actual holiday. Their mother is either deceased or they had a dysfunctional family and relationship with their mother. For those people, that is truly unfortunate however, perhaps you can focus on a teacher, aunt, grandmother or any other special woman in your life. I find that we have to make a choice to make ourselves "happy" and functional. Look for the positive, not the negative and in the process not hurt or blame others.
It's an interesting thing to see people's reaction to this day. I find my spinning instructor's comment to be inspirational. He wished everyone in class a "Happy Mother's Day" He said that even women that do not have children have "mothered" some children. For the most part, that is very true. Woman as teachers, therapists, child care workers, and in various roles have "mothered" and nurtured children. If only we can focus on the positives , such as nurturing and mothering today and not focus on loss. I have met individuals who "detest" the day and will say so weeks before the actual holiday. Their mother is either deceased or they had a dysfunctional family and relationship with their mother. For those people, that is truly unfortunate however, perhaps you can focus on a teacher, aunt, grandmother or any other special woman in your life. I find that we have to make a choice to make ourselves "happy" and functional. Look for the positive, not the negative and in the process not hurt or blame others.
Friday, May 8, 2009
In the Beginning
May 8, 2009
On Monday, May 11th, I will be celebrating 19 years of having graduated with my Master's of Social Work and becoming a psychotherapist. In 1986 is when I officially entered the field of mental health. I am trying very hard to not feel old.
In celebration of all these years in the field, I have decided to start a blog with the hope that I can address issues affecting others in the world of cyberspace.
I am by no means computer literate or an internet junkie, yet! But I hope to reach others that for whatever reason do not go to a therapist's office. I wrote a column for a local community newspaper many years ago and found that to be a lot of fun. Well, here I go again.
It is Friday evening and I hope everyone makes it a good weekend. Make plans for some activities, get out and do! I will be running a 5K, getting back into running since my last half marathon in January 2009. I have attended to other issues and have slacked on running. I am being kind to myself and not doing the 10K. Hobbies and especially exercise are very important. Any aerobic exercise gets more oxygen to your brain and helps with concentration while also releasing those good ole endorphins. So go do something this weekend even if you have to push yourself. You will feel better after.
On Monday, May 11th, I will be celebrating 19 years of having graduated with my Master's of Social Work and becoming a psychotherapist. In 1986 is when I officially entered the field of mental health. I am trying very hard to not feel old.
In celebration of all these years in the field, I have decided to start a blog with the hope that I can address issues affecting others in the world of cyberspace.
I am by no means computer literate or an internet junkie, yet! But I hope to reach others that for whatever reason do not go to a therapist's office. I wrote a column for a local community newspaper many years ago and found that to be a lot of fun. Well, here I go again.
It is Friday evening and I hope everyone makes it a good weekend. Make plans for some activities, get out and do! I will be running a 5K, getting back into running since my last half marathon in January 2009. I have attended to other issues and have slacked on running. I am being kind to myself and not doing the 10K. Hobbies and especially exercise are very important. Any aerobic exercise gets more oxygen to your brain and helps with concentration while also releasing those good ole endorphins. So go do something this weekend even if you have to push yourself. You will feel better after.
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